We have seen it. We have watched our friends and our sisters, our neighbours and our co-workers, our cousins and acquaintances walk through it. Maybe we haven’t lost our own babies but we have carried your pain. We know that a baby lost is a baby lost whether it is a pregnancy at 5 weeks, a baby at full term or a full grown child. We know too that, for some, never being pregnant is an intense loss in its own right and every month its own grieving cycle.
Today we hold our babies tighter, those of us blessed to have them. We hold them tighter not because we deserve them and because you don’t. We wish somehow by squeezing them we could multiply them and share, that we could fill your empty arms. But since we can’t, we try to honor you and them by loving them well and praying with compassion for you that one day, your arms too will be full.
Today is a day set aside to remember infant and pregnancy loss. So we remember with you.
We don’t always know what to say. We don’t fully understand your pain, although we try. But we haven’t forgotten. Today we carry your loss with you.